Let The Real You Shine Through
October 16, 2017 § 2 Comments
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
This quote by author Ralph Waldo Emerson struck a chord recently when I mentioned my last blog to friend Alysha Samec. I had written about adapting to change and growing as a professional and told her I was now considering how my personal side has evolved.
I actually began thinking about this topic in the summer when the Ontario Lottery and Gaming Corporation reunion was held in in Sault Ste. Marie, Ont. I didn’t actually attend because of my work schedule.
However, it was almost exactly 20 years since I left the OLG to start my communications business so I felt a little sentimental.
I also reminisced a lot as a result of getting reconnected with many former colleagues through Facebook at the time and thought about who I was still in contact with and what kept us connected.
In August, we travelled through the Sault on our summer vacation so I had the opportunity to visit a few friends I’d made in my newspaper, lottery and school board days and while operating my communications firm.
As I visited with these people, I considered whether my personal brand had changed over time. If so, would these connections remain just as strong?
Great friendships and business associations endure the test of time – you pick up where you left off as if time hadn’t stopped when you’ve been apart for some time.
I’ve been friends with some people in the Sault for up to 27 years. We stayed connected invariably over shared beliefs and interests.
Alysha asked me if I could define a time when I knew who I am. That’s tough to put a finger on but I think the basic David was formed in my early 20s.
On one hand, I’m much more confident than the guy who it took three weeks to ask out the lady who would become my wife. Now it would take me three seconds.
At the same time, I have always pursued what is really important to me so I had to put my shyness aside to be a news reporter.
I have always known there is something more. Even in high school, I transferred out of a class where I wasn’t being productive to the one that produced the school newspaper, which would lead to my pursuit of journalism – and that newspaper interview that would have me meeting the above-mentioned wife-to-be.
I’m proud of the professional me and happy with David, the person.
Would I do some things differently? Most assuredly so. Do I live with regrets? Never.
A quote from actress Jennifer Aniston sums up my feelings ever so powerfully: “If I could tell my younger self anything, it would be to stop trying to please everyone. You can’t please everyone. All you can do is be yourself and whoever likes you, likes you and whoever doesn’t like you, doesn’t.
“Live your life to the fullest and take chances. Don’t let bullies get to you. Be strong. Just stay true to who you are.”
The late technology legend Steve Jobs had some further great counsel: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
These thoughts on personal brand tie back to my professional life. I recently met up with Ryan Townend, CEO and owner of William Joseph Communications, headquartered in Calgary with offices in Saskatoon and Red Deer. He was doing marketing presentations in Grande Prairie where William Joseph has now expanded.
Ryan related he’d gotten contracts on a couple of occasions, in particular, because of his personal/professional brand. In one instance, he worked his butt off over a long weekend to make a presentation and his competitors didn’t respond to a quote request for several days.
I already had a strong affinity for Ryan’s style as it reflects my own work ethic and practices. This just added to my enjoyment of his business philosophy.
In another instance, Ryan received work because he’d personally responded to every person who commented on a social media campaign that went sideways. His demonstrated willingness to handle a sticky situation up front and honestly impressed a client to be.
Ryan’s outlook is simple: “We only have one life to live. Let’s make it a good one!”
All of this tells me that when you’re authentic, either personally or in business, you’ll get connected to the people you really want to be around.
As a side note … I’ve struggled getting fingers to keyboard on this blog for several weeks but wanted to complete it as a tribute to former Daily Herald-Tribune editor Bill Scott who I worked with for 3.5 years in the mid-1980s. He passed away Oct. 3 and his celebration of life was last week.
Bill authored the column Potpourri for more than 45 years. As much as he was an excellent writer and editor, Bill exemplified how you can work hard and play hard. He enjoyed inviting staff to his home and sharing his love for cooking and music. He organized car rallies for employees and always got the hockey pools going. And then, of course, he would hold court on Fridays after work at Dar’s, a popular watering hole back in the day.
Bill also walked the talk when it came to volunteering. That connected with me at the time and I’ve given back to the community in some form or another almost continuously since.
RIP Bill. You were certainly true to yourself. Journalism and Grande Prairie will never be the same.
The Muse and Views 
Excellent post, thanks for sharing, it really speaks to my current path!
What an in-depth, reflective blog this was! I enjoyed reading this one and responding to it.
The following quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson was prudently reflected upon in your article, “Let the real you shine through.”
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
You declared that it struck a chord for you and I can see why it did! This quotation is a powerful one that shows that it’s ultimately up to each of us to choose our own path and be ‘who’ we decide (aka determine) to be, and then our destiny will unfold before our eyes.
The statement provides much encouragement and motivates a person to find our more about themselves. Not everyone knows ‘who’ they are. You are in tune with your own sense of ‘self’, figuring out, for the most part, who you were in your early 20’s:
“Alysha asked me if I could define a time when I knew who I am. That’s tough to put a finger on but I think the basic David was formed in my early 20s.”
You took it a step further, wondering if when you aged, that your ‘personal brand’ had changed, and how it would affect future connections. You described that great friendships and business associates endure the test of time, picking up where they left off – almost as though time hadn’t stopped while apart for some time. You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned shared beliefs and interests had kept you close to friends.
There can be no space, no disconnect between friends then, when shared beliefs and interests are at heart.
Many people don’t change interests or beliefs, over the course of many years. I wonder though, when you are a creative writer who ponders a lot, (as you appear to do) – and are willing to debate pros and cons of any situation (except for hockey, heh!) until you come to a conclusion, then I would be curious to know ‘who’ you were at 20, and how you has changed now, a (few) decades later.
My guess is that you are now more astute in observations. Also, more confident in life with who you are. You showed a big change in who you are in this excerpt from your blog:
“On one hand, I’m much more confident than the guy who it took three weeks to ask out the lady who would become my wife. Now it would take me three seconds.”
You showed your readers a profound change in who you were with that description of how you responded to a beautiful lady whom you wished to date. We all grow/change in our own time but in your case, a gentle nudge to become less shy was not in the cards…Career roles sometimes encourage us either gently, or, throw us head first to become a different type of ‘who’ we are. In your case of having a reporter role in your career, your shyness had to be left behind almost instantaneously, likely finally allowing your ‘true’ self to step forward:
“At the same time, I have always pursued what is really important to me, so I had to put my shyness aside to be a news reporter.”
You noted quotes from Jennifer Aniston that sum up your feelings in a powerful manner:
Jennifer Aniston: “If I could tell my younger self anything, it would be to stop trying to please everyone. You can’t please everyone. All you can do is be yourself and whoever likes you, likes you and whoever doesn’t like you, doesn’t.
“Live your life to the fullest and take chances. Don’t let bullies get to you. Be strong. Just stay true to who you are.”
I love those quotes from Jennifer. She is someone who doesn’t care what people think about her. It isn’t to say she is going around being a jerk to people because she doesn’t care what people think (She isn’t a jerk, for the record.) It indicates she understands that she has found herself, she *likes* who she is, and is not going to waste precious time worrying over whether someone likes her. She is definitely not going to change herself just to please someone else.
If we could all ‘find’ ourselves and most importantly – LIKE ourselves – now, there is a winning feat on a high scale of importance in life.
You also mentioned Steven Jobs and his great counsel on our time here on earth:
Steve Jobs: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
This oozes to me, in my own paraphrasing: “DO NOT live inside the box. Get the hell out of the box. Run, while you can!” I should take this to heart and follow whatever intuitions, hopes and dreams that I have. Like Jobs said, everything else is secondary. I believe that to deny who one is, is to live a lie.
I recall Bill Scott’s famous Potpourri articles in the Daily Herald Tribune throughout the years and was pleased to see him mentioned in a tribute in your blog! He would have really enjoyed reading it. I love the examples you used of how he chose to live his life to the fullest, enjoying all aspects of it. It was astute for you to note that he lived his life ‘true to himself.’ Something that many people would fare well with if they were to just go for it.
I agree with your closing statement:
“Journalism and Grande Prairie will never be the same.”
You are not forgotten, Bill Scott. Your memory will live on.